How Vulnerable Are You?

Vulnerability is scary. Opening up to someone about yourself, your secrets, and your desires also opens you up to rejection. However, the upside of vulnerability is high: it can foster intimacy and understanding in a relationship and create strong emotional bonds between you and others. It can even help us understand ourselves better. How vulnerable are you? See where you fall on this scale.

1. I don’t usually share personal failures with close friends or family.

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2. I’m afraid to share my deepest fears with my partner.

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3. Sometimes, I feel like I have to apologize for who I am.

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4. Vulnerability is a sign of weakness.

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5. I’m nervous my partner will think less of me if I share my feelings.

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6. Opening up makes me more susceptible to being taken advantage of or hurt.

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7. I’m willing to sacrifice some level of intimacy to avoid sharing my secrets.

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8. I don’t want to tell my partner my true desires.

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9. I find it difficult to admit when I don’t know something.

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10. I’m never the first to say “I love you” in relationships.

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11. It’s difficult for me to share the challenges I’ve faced in life.

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12. I worry that if I show my true self, my partner will no longer feel the same way about me.

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13. I don’t feel like I can show people who I really am.

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14. I find it difficult to admit when I am wrong.

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15. I don’t show others what I’m ashamed of about myself.

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16. I don’t like asking for help.

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17. I find it difficult to apologize, even if I know I’m wrong.

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18. I avoid speaking up about what I want.

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19. I’m rarely the first to make up after a fight.

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20. I think that vulnerability is a necessary part of emotional connection.

DISAGREE AGREE