Emotional Availability Test

2. I have had more casual or short-term relationships than long-term committed relationships.

3. When a partner and I are in a conflict, I prefer to go be by myself rather than keep talking about it.

4. It’s important to express my love for my partner often.

5. I would rather work or engage with a hobby than talk about my relationship.

6. I don’t want to depend on anyone, not even a partner.

7. When a partner tells me I’m not emotionally engaged, I think that they’re too emotional, too sensitive, or just wrong.

8. I think the things I do or get for a partner express my love just as much as do words.

9. I sometimes think people expect more emotions from me than I’m able to offer, and that they feel let down.

10. When a partner tells me about their problems or feelings, I assure them it’s not a big deal or that things will be OK.

11. I’m not a fan of public displays of affection.

12. I sometimes worry about getting trapped in a relationship.

13. When a partner asks me to talk about my childhood family relationships, I tell them it was fine and try to talk about something else.

14. When a partner talks about deep feelings, I like to quote from movies, songs, or books instead of sharing my own thoughts.

15. I am comfortable around people who wear their heart on their sleeve.

16. A partner has told me they worry about my capacity for love.

17. I don’t think it’s important to label a relationship that seems to be working.

18. When a partner starts to discuss difficult feelings, I try to make a joke.

19. Being totally open with my feelings makes me deeply uncomfortable.

20. When a partner starts a serious talk, I keep my phone or TV on instead of giving them my complete attention.