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✓ 20 QUESTIONS ⏱ ~3 MINUTES

Boundaries Test

Everyone needs to be able to say “no.” No is not always negative; boundaries are necessary for meeting your goals, preserving mental well-being, and avoiding exploitation by others. How comfortable you are respecting your own needs strongly influences your self-respect, your happiness, and the quality of all your relationships.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL STRONGLY AGREE

1. I want to say no to others more often than I usually do.

DISAGREE AGREE

2. I often put others' needs ahead of my own.

DISAGREE AGREE

3. I feel comfortable stating ground rules for relationships

DISAGREE AGREE

4. I do not like saying no because it can lead to conflict.

DISAGREE AGREE

5. I let others know when they have violated my boundaries.

DISAGREE AGREE

6. I prioritize my own needs whenever necessary.

DISAGREE AGREE

7. When necessary, I can turn down others' requests of me.

DISAGREE AGREE

8. It is sometimes necessary to say no when I want to say yes.

DISAGREE AGREE

9. I please other people even if it makes me feel resentful.

DISAGREE AGREE

10. I generally know what I want from the people in my life

DISAGREE AGREE

11. I do not give in when someone pushes against a boundary I set.

DISAGREE AGREE

12. I can say no to others without offering an explanation.

DISAGREE AGREE

13. When someone violates a boundary I have set, I follow through with any pre-established consequences.

DISAGREE AGREE

14. It’s OK if people don’t like me because I’ve held firm to a decision.

DISAGREE AGREE

15. I can handle strong emotional reactions from others.

DISAGREE AGREE

16. Others often take advantage of my good nature.

DISAGREE AGREE

17. I feel good when I stick to the lines I draw with others.

DISAGREE AGREE

18. I am comfortable telling other people when they've crossed a line with me.

DISAGREE AGREE

19. I say no to others when what is asked conflicts with my goals for myself

DISAGREE AGREE

20. I do not tell people when they ask for more than I can give.

DISAGREE AGREE